Stop spending time with the wrong people.
“Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.”
For me, this theme isn’t about who I need to stop spending time with, but actually who I need to start spending time with. Many of you now know that Dave and I decided to go our separate ways. Without having to take a partner of a relationship into consideration I’m left evaluating my friendships. I have a few close friends here in Louisville/Indiana, all of which I love dearly. None I’d describe as “sucking the happiness out of me” or any of the above. All of my other friends are scattered around the world, from Dominica, to Canada, Texas, Arizona, Maryland, New Jersey, California, New Mexico… and, well, you get the point.
The thing is, I tend to try and deal with hard times all by myself. And, when I need emotional support from friends/family I see it as a weakness so I withdraw which ends up isolating myself further. So, it’s not that I need to “stop spending time with the wrong people” but I have to start reaching out more to these awesome people that are already a part of my life. I need to curb my prideful weakness of trying to do everything by myself, denying the fact that I need help sometimes.
So, this week I'm going to work on that. When I'm feeling particularly crappy I'm going to do my best to pick up my phone, or even set up some Skype calls.
I’ll keep you posted.
Love it, Nikki. I am the same way - when things get tough, I isolate myself. I hate to burden people with my problems. Nobody is perfect, we all have problems, and it definitely doesn't make you weak to ask for help once in a while. I mean, that is what friends and family are there for, right!? : )
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way, I never ever reach out for support from friends, and honestly Im sure its distanced a lot of my friendships. But Im here.. close enough you can just pop in ;-] I think you got week one . XoXo
ReplyDeleteFeel free to text or call me!!! You will probably have to say, hey this is Nikki since all my contacts are gone in my phone - but I promise I will be there.
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Anna - Right!!! It's what I'm learning more and more every day.
ReplyDeleteSteph - I think maybe more than one week now, lol. You're going to be sick of me soon.
Charisse - I'm going to take you up on that!